Pasquale (Pat, Patty, Brother) Bencivenga passed away peacefully at 90 years of age on October 24th 2021 at the New Jersey Veteran’s Home in Paramus, NJ.  Pat was born July 21, 1931 in Hoboken, NJ to parents Pasquale and Stella Bencivenga and spent much of his life in his home state of New Jersey.

Patty leaves behind, his beloved wife Helen, his son John Stankiewicz, daughter-in-law Marilyn Stankiewicz, and his two grandsons, Christopher and Bryan Stankiewicz.  He also leaves behind his beloved sister, Lucille Burke, and her husband Gary; as well as his brothers-in-law Ronnie Zenzer, Joseph Lehen, and Ron Oprendek.  He also leaves behind his loving sisters-in-law, Jackie Lehen and Carol Oprendek.  Pat is predeceased by his brother Anthony, and sister Marie, whom he loved dearly.  Pat also leaves behind many cherished cousins, nieces, nephews, and countless friends from his endless adventures living life like only he knew how.

Pat proudly served his country in the US Army during the Korean War, and after returning home, became a member of the Longshoremen’s Union, where he worked on the docks for thirty years.  But it was his real love and passion for Horse Racing that drove him to experience life around the country.

In his free time, he spent many hours working and helping out at horse tracks all around the US, a hobby he loved since being a young boy in Hoboken.  He eventually purchased his own race horse and saw many years of enjoyment competing, and was even part of the team that saw “Needles” win the Kentucky Derby and Belmont Stakes in 1956, a story he never forgot to share!

In his later years Pasquale was widely known around the town of Cliffside Park and the senior building where he and Helen spent their time, always chatting, running errands, and meeting new friends.  He will be dearly missed by his family and friends.

The Funeral Mass will be offered on Thursday, November 4, 2021, 10AM at St. Francis RC Church, 308 Jefferson Street, Hoboken. Interment will follow at Brigadier General William C. Doyle Veterans Cemetery, Wrightstown, NJ. Visitation will be held on Thursday, November 4, 2021, beginning at 9am and concluding at 9:45 am at Failla-McKnight Memorial Home, 533 Willow Avenue, Hoboken. Parking available in rear of memorial home off Sixth Street.

In lieu of flowers, please make a donation to St. Jude’s Children’s’ Hospital.


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